In a life imitates art scenario, but without the cliche of good guys always win, one discovers that a brother has been feeding me nothing but lies and appears to be struggling for his position in organized crime.
The ones closest to us are the ones we're most vulnerable to (probably the reason I don't trust a lot of people) & this is true ESPECIALLY with family. As someone recently told me, if it's necessary, severing ties to protect yourself may be the best thing. If it's the right choice is a decision you'll have to make.
I think you don't really have to do anything but disengage. He gets to make his own choices, good and bad, and you get to pull back and not be involved.
Once people prove to be liars you have to stop trusting them.
If it were me, I would keep communication open but no longer expose myself.
A very rational approach, if only lack of communication would stop the aggravation. He is a bit more involved than I knew and at this point I am concerned about life preservation.
lol. I am the one concerned about my life preservation and am apparently in his way. I agree that no amount of money or power is worth dying for, but in his world, it is worth killing for.
Hi Ant. This sounds serious. I don't know what to say but I do want to say hello. It has been a while. I send best wishes to you for the very best outcome. Take care, won't you.
One step at a time. . . 'Many stones do form an arch.'
NZ is good, yes. Some time away may create helpful distance and offer up a solution? Whatever you do, where you go, take care. And I'd like to pass on four words a friend gave to me some years ago that have proved to be absolutely invaluable during times of crisis and challenge - 'the energy of restraint' - a mantra and practice that has helped turn potentially explosive and devastating situations into something altogether different (remarkably so). All best to you, Ant.
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ReplyDeleteNow, we DANCE!
Hmm. That was probably flip.
Look at what he is lying about, and why he feels he must lie. Pity him, and change all necessary locks.
Pearl
I think we outgrew that part.
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ReplyDeleteThe ones closest to us are the ones we're most vulnerable to (probably the reason I don't trust a lot of people) & this is true ESPECIALLY with family. As someone recently told me, if it's necessary, severing ties to protect yourself may be the best thing. If it's the right choice is a decision you'll have to make.
ReplyDeleteI agree, except severing ties is a bit more complicated.
DeleteIn the meantime, I could use a food taster before I eat. At least the royals were royals.
I think you don't really have to do anything but disengage. He gets to make his own choices, good and bad, and you get to pull back and not be involved.
ReplyDeleteOnce people prove to be liars you have to stop trusting them.
If it were me, I would keep communication open but no longer expose myself.
A very rational approach, if only lack of communication would stop the aggravation.
DeleteHe is a bit more involved than I knew and at this point I am concerned about life preservation.
Moving to a new, obscure place, is a time honored strategy for people in his predicament. No amount of money or power is worth dying for.
Deletelol.
DeleteI am the one concerned about my life preservation and am apparently in his way. I agree that no amount of money or power is worth dying for, but in his world, it is worth killing for.
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DeleteThat is a different thing entirely. Think about incentives and game theory.
DeleteConstructing a dead man's switch and letting him know of its existence, once carefully crafted, might be prudent.
http://skeptictank.org/hs/vanish.htm
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to say friend....maybe talk to a legal professional and gain some insight into how to protect yourself?
ReplyDeleteFool me once, shame on you.
ReplyDeleteFool me twice, shame on me.
As much as it pains you, sometimes we just need to cut the ties which bind us.
Hi Ant. This sounds serious. I don't know what to say but I do want to say hello. It has been a while. I send best wishes to you for the very best outcome. Take care, won't you.
ReplyDeleteThank you all.
DeleteEasier done than said or easier said than done.
Claire, NZ sounds good and as far away as possible.
One step at a time. . . 'Many stones do form an arch.'
DeleteNZ is good, yes. Some time away may create helpful distance and offer up a solution? Whatever you do, where you go, take care. And I'd like to pass on four words a friend gave to me some years ago that have proved to be absolutely invaluable during times of crisis and challenge - 'the energy of restraint' - a mantra and practice that has helped turn potentially explosive and devastating situations into something altogether different (remarkably so). All best to you, Ant.
Thank you Claire, although I am not clear on the practical application.
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